Showing posts with label mission. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mission. Show all posts

Sunday, January 12, 2014

The Accountability Prayer

            I recently taught a lesson in my elder’s quorum. It was the first Sunday of the year, and I wanted to teach on setting goals, really planning for the future year ahead of us. The lesson went over well, there’s tons of material I pulled from my mission and notes to prepare for it. I especially love what Preach My Gospel says about goal setting:

            “Goals reflect the desires of our hearts and the vision of what we can accomplish. Through goals and plans, our hopes are transformed into action. Goal setting and planning are acts of faith”

            We had a great discussion on the topic, and how to go about setting goals and New Year’s resolutions. Comments of what goals they had set, had been wanting to set, what was holding them back from achieving certain goals. It was an eye opener to me to see these great men, many of them return missionaries struggling with setting and reaching their goals.
            So I set out again to find out what I learned in my mission to help me reach goals, no just set them. The more I studied, the more I found. But all of that came down to once principle.

            Accountability.

            There’s a whole section of it in Preach My Gospel, we talk about it in our lessons, becoming accountable to the Lord for our actions, our sins, consequences, and we study it in classes, its everywhere. But what makes the difference?
            I’ll admit there were a few times on my mission that we set goals just to throw out some numbers to report. We had no heart, and no intention of striving to meet those goals. But, there were many other times where my companion and I prayed for hours, pondered and searched for the goals we should set and that we could achieve. We were motivated by our goals, whether key indicators or personal goals. We found joy in the work as we strove to reach our goals, and were devastated when we couldn’t seem to reach them. In those tough instances, we would take a second, feel bad and sorry, reevaluate the goal, maybe change it, and press forward.
            We remained unhindered by the past performances of other missionaries and ourselves. We were motivated by our Father in Heaven and our faith in His plan of happiness. The biggest piece of advice when setting goals, looking forward the future, your potential and dreams, that I can give is that which is given in Genesis to Lot.

            “Look not behind thee.”

            Simple. Direct. Powerful. You are not your past; rather you are the lessons and memories you retain from your past. Who you are is very much the dreams and goals you have set for yourself, and that is unhindered by the past you have lived.
            So that is setting goals. The accountability came next. We came home each night, after a hard day’s labor, and would account our efforts to each other, and to our Father in Heaven. We set personal goals, and daily actions to reflect our work on those to track our progress, those we felt comfortable sharing we discussed, and helped each other improve. We would remind each other of our goals throughout the day.
            The key is to review each night. I work late, getting in after midnight, and get up early for morning classes, but each night I find a few minutes to review my efforts that day against my goals. Did I give an honest workday, did I study what I needed to, and did I study my scriptures in preparation for my lessons on Sunday? I account those efforts to the Lord just as I did in the Mission. And that, this simple action of an accountability prayer, has made all the difference in my goals setting and achieving.


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As a Child of God

            A young kitten grows to become cat, a young cub to an adult bear. It would make sense that if we were truly the children of God that we would have the potential to become like God. This one truth changes one’s outlook on life, struggles, happiness, time; everything changes with this single important truth.
            And yet, so few understand their potential to become like their Father. They can be like God in every way, from attitude and manner, to emotions and power, the concept of a Father and a Child is very much evident in our spiritual sense as it is in the physical world.
            But how could we understand this truth with out first knowing our Father? And having an example to look toward is necessary to becoming similar to that example. But where is God? Where is our Example of perfection and God-like behavior?
            There are two suggestions I offer, they coincide carefully but are distinctly different.
            We first can seek to have a relationship with the example we follow before attaining and working on the attributes they possess. The first person we may follow is God himself. We can build a relationship with him through prayer and speaking with him. Your prayers can be a conversation if you give Him time to speak. You can learn from the scriptures the lessons He has taught and what His attitude, even personality is.
            You will find a loving, kind, gracious Father in those words. But also one with direction and counsel. You will find times of rebuke and critique, but always with a loving touch for the one it is given. It will be the same with your own life as you seek guidance from our Father in Heaven.
            The other example is the supreme Example of a Child of God. In a family often children will look to the parents for an example, but many will also look to the oldest child for direction on how to act.
            Christ is our elder brother and can serve a perfect example of being a Child of God. He was perfectly obedient to all the Father’s commandments; he served those around him, taught with the spirit. But notice the details of His time on earth, he was born a helpless babe, taught and raised by an earthly mother and father who taught him of God, he soon built a relationship with His Father in Heaven, learning from Him by the Spirit. He constantly prayed, offered up prayers of gratitude and pleading for those around him. He sought ways to help others, to lead them to build the same relationship He had with the Father. In His glory, He receives all the Father has.
            We are not Christ, but similar to Him, we each are sons and daughters of God. He is our Father, and as a perfect Father, desires to teach and help us, but also to direct us. And we can become like him. Our potential to do so comes from our very nature as His children. He loves you. He seeks after you. He wants to hear from you, hear your prayers and help guide and uplift you through this life. And you can be like Him.

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Friday, January 3, 2014

Do what you can...

‘Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.’ –Teddy Roosevelt.
Amazing. Simple. the time is never perfect. But it must be good enough. Tough decisions must be made, and it is not always comfortable or convenient. But you have all your experience, your friends and family support, your God beside you, step forward with faith.
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By Christ we see everything

My sister sent me this quote during my mission and it help focus a lot of what we did in our work.

            “Believing in Christ is like believing in the sun at noonday, no that you can see it, but because of it, you can see everything.”

            It is beautifully put, I for one have never seen Christ, but because of Him, I can see all things. I haven’t yet, don’t get me wrong, but I can with faith and time see all things.
            I started to think about my belief in Christ, where it was before my mission and how this quote changed that feeling for Him. Before my mission I knew there was a Christ, I knew who He was, what He did, to some small extent I understood how His life and actions applied to me.
            It wasn’t until I started to teach others that I realized how little I really understood Christ. I reflected on it today again, how deep is His love for me? For each of us? How painful was the Atonement he suffered for me and for all? The extent of his life, the pain, suffering, no doubt the happiness in triumph is beyond anything I could ever hope to comprehend.
            It was an amazing moment to chase these thoughts as I, so some very very miniscule extent began to feel what Moses did in the Pearl of Great Price, seeing the greatness of God, he realizes that Man is Nothing. I was amazed at how small I was in the creation of God, but at the same time, how much I mattered to Him.

            I was a speck in time and place, compared to worlds without end and unlimited knowledge and power. But there was a real relationship between me and this supreme Being I call Father.

            He provides, He listens, He comforts. Whenever I need Him He’s there.


            Because of my belief in Christ, its not that I can see Him, but I can see everything because of Him.


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There are people you love, and people you don’t yet know.

            A missionary shared this in a district meeting early on in my mission, and it changed my mission and afterward, my life. Even since being home this has come into circumstance over and over again as I look at the teams and groups I am a part of at school, work, everything.
            Specifically though I want to take a look at this in terms of missionaries themselves. I think it is almost natural with the Spirit to guide us that we feel a love begin to swell in us as we teach someone. We begin to understand their past, their hopes and desires, what they do now, how it affects their future, we love them and offer the best thing we have, the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

            But now missionaries. This includes companions, leaders, district and zone members, maybe even ward and branch members. I remember multiple times on my own mission where I knew I didn’t love my companion. This turned out to be one of the greatest blessings for me in my life, because I was able to practice this statement out: there are people you love, and people you don’t yet know.
            I think by definition there are some people we, gently put, don’t work as well with as others, am I right? Maybe you’re in a companionship that is kinda tense, a leader doesn’t understand your situation, or a district member or companionship wont work. Whatever the case is, this quote applies. I don’t remember how many times I realized that I knew more about my investigators than my companion. There were quite a few awkward moments as we would be teaching and didn’t plan that, or meeting with members and I would wonder where he got that habit or saying, and some thing should just drive me insane. I put up a block and our companionship started to crumble because for both of us, we refused to see beyond the person we saw every day.

            In one case, I found myself with a hardworking, diligent, obedient companion. It was early on in my mission, I was fired up, ready to roll, wanting to work, and so we had that working for us. We disagreed on a couple small things, nothing crazy, but it exploded on when we wanted to go running, we had a little flexibility as to working out in the morning or after coming in for the night before bed. I found that I had been so stubborn on some things that we had begun to separate even beyond this one subject. It seems childish, and it was.

            This is how we fixed it, and how you can with any relationship:

We sat down and got to know each other. We talked about our pasts, our mistakes, and our aspirations. We discussed our hopes for the mission, our dreams and vision for who we wanted to be at the end, what we wanted to do when we got back. After that, things were great. We had gotten to a point where we understood each other enough to anticipate each others sentences, we studied harder, worked harder, we pushed each other how we knew the other would respond, because we understood each other.
            I grew to love this companion. The experience and countless others taught me so much beyond just how to teach investigators, tract, find, talk with members. It taught me to love. Simply the love you have to have, it Christ’s love, and the reason Christ can love you perfectly, and anyone perfectly is because he knows you perfectly. Every decision, every thought, hope, discouragement, he knows, and because of that he loves you and knows how to help you.
            With any companion, investigators, leader, member, begin here: with an understanding of who they are. Not only will that communicate your genuine love for them but it will also build a trust in you as a servant of God, because you are doing exactly what Christ does with us, we are able to turn to Him because he listens, because he helps, guides, teaches.
            May you listen, question, remember, understand, may you love.

There are people you love, and people you don’t yet know.